Parenting Through Life’s Uncertainties

Benjamin Franklin famously wrote, “In this world, nothing is certain except death and taxes.” I’d add that uncertainty is just as inevitable. Uncertainty is a human condition, one that we all face at various points. Whether it’s uncertainty over something personal, like a job or a college decision, or uncertainty about something more general, like economic shifts or an emerging innovation, uncertainty is quite simply a fact of life.

For adolescents, who are already navigating a time of profound physical, psychological, and social change, this uncertainty can feel especially intense. Questions like, "Will I get an 'A'?", "Will they let me sit with them?", "Will I make the team?", "Does she like me?", and "Is God really listening?" are a typical part of adolescence. With so much uncertainty, how can you support your teen or tween as they weather these challenges? Below are a few practical tips to help your child navigate this murky terrain of doubt and anxiety.

As parents, you are your child’s primary role model. Therefore, it’s important to be aware of your own reactions when faced with uncertainty. How you handle it will have an impact on how your child responds when it happens to them. Be sure that you prioritize your own self-care, positive routines, and connections. Though they might not admit it, our children are always watching. Show them that uncertainty can be approached with curiosity and optimism, and that it often leads to new opportunities and personal growth.